from #ilmfest2014
Sometimes, the husband are complaining.
"I tried everything to make my wife happy. I did everything for her"
(this is just an example)
my opinion, he will be tired.
The reality that most of people doesn't seem to understand is,
we, human, we can't give happiness to others.
we, human, we can't make others happy.
happiness is a feeling inside. within each heart.
happiness is NOT A THING that you can give away.
happiness is a feeling that developed from one's heart.
and, when you, yourself aren't happy, how can you make others happy?
that equation doesn't work.
if you put all hope like this: you want your wife/ husband to make you happy,
eventually, you will break your heart.
happiness is when, your heart is filled with real happiness and that what inspired others to be happy too.
because, when you have real happiness, it shows.
and, automatically you can spread the happiness to the people around you.
and, to gain real happiness, eternal happiness, you have to get it from real and eternal One.
Allah SWT.
human have weaknesses, human is temporary in this world, human will die.
how does that makes human is the source of your eternal happiness?
Allah never said its haram for man and woman to love each other.
Allah is encouraging that love among Muslims.
but, Allah wants you to love in the right way.
-- for those unmarried couple,
ask yourself, do you love your boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancee for the sake of Allah?
if your answer is yes, congratulations.
if you don't have any idea what i am talking about, relax, take a break, and keep looking for Allah's love and happiness. your are not fit for a marriage yet.
the metaphor is, how can you drive a car without learning and getting to know how to drive. the consequences could be very bad and severe. you can get into an accident and etc.
--for those married couple,
ask yourself the same question.
if your answer is yes, congratulations.
if the answer is no, start from now to learn. fix is better than giving up. this is very important. why? to have long lasting marriage. you don't know how much its affects children's when family institutions break down.
--for those single man/woman
to feel little jealous is normal.
but, blaming Allah for not giving you spouse is not.
when you have Allah in your heart, you are happy enough.
you know that marriage is not a goal, our goal is jannah.
and marriage is only a means, or tools to go to jannah.
besides marriage, there so many other tools that you can use to collect the reward, to gain Allah's redha, as a preparation to jannah.
in the end, when you die, you die alone.
its always between you and Allah.
have you prepare yourself for that?
Sometimes, the husband are complaining.
"I tried everything to make my wife happy. I did everything for her"
(this is just an example)
my opinion, he will be tired.
The reality that most of people doesn't seem to understand is,
we, human, we can't give happiness to others.
we, human, we can't make others happy.
happiness is a feeling inside. within each heart.
happiness is NOT A THING that you can give away.
happiness is a feeling that developed from one's heart.
and, when you, yourself aren't happy, how can you make others happy?
that equation doesn't work.
if you put all hope like this: you want your wife/ husband to make you happy,
eventually, you will break your heart.
happiness is when, your heart is filled with real happiness and that what inspired others to be happy too.
because, when you have real happiness, it shows.
and, automatically you can spread the happiness to the people around you.
and, to gain real happiness, eternal happiness, you have to get it from real and eternal One.
Allah SWT.
human have weaknesses, human is temporary in this world, human will die.
how does that makes human is the source of your eternal happiness?
Allah never said its haram for man and woman to love each other.
Allah is encouraging that love among Muslims.
but, Allah wants you to love in the right way.
-- for those unmarried couple,
ask yourself, do you love your boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancee for the sake of Allah?
if your answer is yes, congratulations.
if you don't have any idea what i am talking about, relax, take a break, and keep looking for Allah's love and happiness. your are not fit for a marriage yet.
the metaphor is, how can you drive a car without learning and getting to know how to drive. the consequences could be very bad and severe. you can get into an accident and etc.
--for those married couple,
ask yourself the same question.
if your answer is yes, congratulations.
if the answer is no, start from now to learn. fix is better than giving up. this is very important. why? to have long lasting marriage. you don't know how much its affects children's when family institutions break down.
--for those single man/woman
to feel little jealous is normal.
but, blaming Allah for not giving you spouse is not.
when you have Allah in your heart, you are happy enough.
you know that marriage is not a goal, our goal is jannah.
and marriage is only a means, or tools to go to jannah.
besides marriage, there so many other tools that you can use to collect the reward, to gain Allah's redha, as a preparation to jannah.
in the end, when you die, you die alone.
its always between you and Allah.
have you prepare yourself for that?
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